How triangulation occurs during a divorce

On Behalf of | Oct 18, 2022 | Family Law

Divorce is a stressful experience for all involved, and sometimes a stressful event brings out some of the worst parts of a person’s personality. Triangulation is a method that narcissists use to get people to be on their side during events like a divorce proceeding.

If you are going through a divorce in Pennsylvania, be aware of these three groups of people that someone with narcissistic traits might target for triangulation.

Those closest to them

The inner circle, or the people closest to the narcissist, are often the first target for triangulation. This group can include close friends, family members and even the attorney representing the opposing spouse. A narcissistic person often wants sympathy and for their inner circle to side with them rather than their spouse.

Their children

Children are sometimes a casualty of one parent trying to pit them against the other parent. Some ways that a narcissistic parent might do this include giving the child gifts or allowing the child to have privileges that the other parent does not provide. The parent may also punish children if they feel the child takes the other parent’s side.

Their community

A narcissist may also try to give onlookers a certain impression of them during the divorce, often that of being a great parent and perfect spouse. One way that they do this is by posting on a public social media account, where even those who are not involved in the divorce can see.

By being aware of the signs of triangulation, you can take steps to protect yourself and your children during a divorce.